How many young trans people are out there who are now regretting that they had gone through irreversible treatment...?
This is Keira's story. [bbc.co.uk]
When she was 16, she was suicidal and desperately wanted to become a boy. With her parents consent, Keira underwent irreversible treatment including breast removal.
She was happy for a while, but then she changed her mind. She didn't want to be a man any more. It was too late, then.
Now she blames the adults involved; her parents for giving the doctors their consent, the doctors for putting her through the irreversible treatment and the entire society for not accepting her. She is in fact suing the doctors now. She says that she should have been challenged on her transition when she was 16.
The thing is, when one does challenge a minor's transgender desires, one gets canceled by the woke mob... If the doctors challenged Keira on her transition, they would probably have been sued by Keira's parents represented by a woke lawyer.
Meanwhile, suicide is very high among the LGBTQ community. They have serious internal conflicts.
It is easy to say that Keira should've known better or to criticise her for not taking responsibilities for her own actions, but isn't there anything, anything at all that we, adults, could do for desperately confused young people?
It's my personal, passionate belief that young AFAB (assigned female at birth) people could benefit from trying out "social transition" for a long period before committing to any hormones or surgery! I was born female and began identifying as male at the age of 22-23. I changed my hair, clothes, and name and that was it - no hormones, no surgeries. After 10 years of identifying as male, I finally decided that testosterone was the right step for me to take (with assistance of my doctors and therapists) and began HRT (hormone replacement therapy).
Though part of me wishes I had begun HRT years ago, due to the massive positive benefit I get from it, I am also very glad that I took the time to wait and work myself out. Was it an easy time? NO. Did everyone accept me? HELL NO! But for me, it was an amazing, important experience to try it out long term and make sure it was the life I wanted for myself.
Now, I'm not recommending that AFAB people all go through 10 years of "social transition" (AKA "real life test" ) before starting hormones and surgeries, but I do wish that young people would take a year or LONGER to really try it out and think it through. Ideally, I would also like to see a society that is accepting and embracing of EXPERIMENTATION with gender! In my mind, if we embrace "experimentation," then there is no shame for children who test the waters and then decide that they aren't trans after all. If a girl has only done "social transition," then it's 100% reversible and she can live life as a normal woman.
But right now, I am seeing AFAB people pressured into taking testosterone early. This pressure does not JUST come from within the transgender community! It also comes from outside, very heavily. There is a lot of pressure to commit instead of being in an obvious in-between place. And there is a lot of pressure to PASS - and be seen as "male" and not as "trans."
You point out the primary problem - there is a loud activist community, supported by political forces that demand 'affirmative support', or "what ever you want darling". It is an abdication of the medical community, from the therapists to the surgeons to the hospitals, of their responsibilities.
There is ZERO doubt that the issues surrounding GID cause other problems in young people's lives OR/AND other problems cause GID (I happen to disagree with the later^). But resolving GID takes significant mental stamina, and if other issues are present, it is a crippling process.
Keira MIGHT have known better - there is so much out there today that kids pick up the 'lingo' and all they have to do is maintain a pretense for a short time to get what they want. That is one of the reasons why SOC requires a year RLT before any surgeries. But because of the medical communities behavior, SOC is being ignored almost completely (the exception seems to be GRS/SRS).
It is terrible that she now has, at a minimum, body dysmorphia, and the resulting mental trauma of her aborted transition. I lay the blame on her parents and her therapists. And if there were NO therapists or 'affirming' only therapists, I blame the surgeon too. The child is now accountable for their failures.