I think adults can do whatever they want in the privacy of their bedroom. Or living room. Or kitchen floor. I don't judge.
But I also think when you take that out into the world and start slamming and shaming people for not acknowledging the nuances of which of Baskin Robbins' 31 flavors you happen to be and how they must in turn respond accordingly, you've turned your identity into politics for the purposes of controlling other people...and that's crap.
If you want me to refer to you as "she" or "xer" or "Zod"(1) that's fine; I will do that as a courtesy for YOU because you asked me to. But don't try to have me canceled because I didn't put pronouns in my profile because I personally do not feel the need to.(2) Trying to bully me into your personal beliefs is no more acceptable to me than the Westboro Baptists protesting a soldier's funeral.
(1) Not that I'm kneeling before you in any respect.
(2) Which is how the whole ball got rolling with the cancel mob going after Gina Carano.
I think this picture fits the conversation I just had with my daughter. It honestly hurts my brain but, evidently... my daughter identifies as a boy but knows she's a girl. She wants to look like a boy sometimes and a girl other times. Whether she is dressed boy or girl she says she's not gender neutral, nor is she gay (she likes boys) but, also wants the him/he pronouns even if she is wearing a dress and kissing a boy. So, I said, "we should watch the movie 'Victor Victoria'" and explained the movie. Then she said yes, think of me as a transgender who is straight. Now, my question is, is she a transgender boy or transgender girl