ANOTHER QUESTION FOR LESBIANS FROM A STRAIGHT GUY:
Is it me or is lesbian identity slowly being phased out? I've been doing some digging because I don't know much about lesbian culture but it seems that lesbians have been affected the most by the accepting of the lgbtq community by the mainstream. I've read that lesbian only spaces are disappearing, and even the younger generation refuses to adopt the label of lesbian. Instead preferring the general term of queer. My question is do you think this due to there not being a strong lesbian culture. Not that I'm an expert on the lesbian community or experience. But from an outsider's perspective looking in it seems that there really isn't anything within the lesbian community other than having sex and relationships exclusively with women that is uniquely lesbian. Meaning there is nothing that would seem out of place if adopted by a straight woman. Nothing that I can identify any way but I'm an idiot. I miss a lot. I think this theory explains why the younger generation rejects the label. If there's nothing they can call their own within the lesbian culture why would they adopt the label. But there is a sense of uniqueness in the larger queer community so they adopt that label.
yep. lesbians ARE the most affected. I'm so happy that even straight people are now able to see our struggle. thank you for taking note. i think the lesbian community is strong, but we also are more welcoming so it allows people to take advantage.
It is! All of this "Love the lady dick or you're a transphobe" is just more conversion therapy. Sadly, it works when its the left doing it. You don't know how many women on the now defunct Gender Critical said they tried to date a transwoman because they felt guilted and pressured into it by their peers.
It's true dude!!! A lot of lesbians feel like the community is dying out, it's fuckin sad... Here are some things I have noticed in my experience:
Older gay man here. Lesbian culture and the lesbian community has been decimated. Mostly due to economic inequality, lesbians unlike gay men fall in love and don't go out as much... lesbians nest (gay men fall in love and still go out.), and female space like MichFest and female only lesbian space were deemed transphobic. With inclusive safe space... pushed out lesbian space.
There was once a thriving lesbian community.
Womens Music Festivals
Organizations both political and social
Portland and Santa Fe were considered lesbian cities
All of that gone... <poof> It is sad that the LGBTQIA++ Community does not care and never discusses what happened... they just erased it from history and act like it never happened. We should have made economic inequality, & the ERA LGBT issues but we dropped the ball.
I don't know too much about this, as I'm not a lesbian and never have identified as one. But isn't it up to young people how they want to identify? If they don't identify as lesbian and they prefer "queer," what's the problem? Does this really harm anyone or is it just a shift in subculture?
Again, I can't speak for lesbians. I welcome a real lesbian to share a differing opinion with me if she has one.
I have alot of thoughts on this.
I'm between CompHet, and the split attraction model, sexism and trans activism... before we even get to homophobia...
Yeah... lesbian is being phased put because it has so many negative connotations.
It the uk when I was growing up Gay men got called fags/ faggots / pussys / etc.
Women got called lezbos/ dykes . I get why lesbian has negative assosiations.
But to replace with "queer" is a fucking piss take.
Side note: this is why I identified as queer. Im gay. Getting to the point of saying im a lesbian had tok much ikky assiosiated with it. Because Im nearly 30.
Younguns have zero excuse lol