Funny story, just happened.
Nex (45) called me up, and asked me to give my opinion on a topic he was discussing with a friend. The topic was about marriage.
He was on a date, and wanted me to join by phone.
I mean really.
At first I protested. Then I thought why not.
He put the gal (25) on the phone, and I said I was uncomfortable joining their date. She said no worries, it didn't bother her to speak to Nex's ex.
She and I chitchatted about the topic. She's apparently non-monogamus and had gotten a marriage proposal.
I said, well, if you are non-monogamus, and get married, you will have to have a secret life, like Nex. She said what?? I said, yah Nex had an entirely secret life while we were dating for 18 months.
She wasn't happy to hear that.
I said, also, Nex is still married, so you might ask him how he did a secret life.
She said: What!!
I said, yah, he didn't tell me for 18 months.
I hear her say: Nex, what? You are still married?
I hear a bit of phone shuffle, and her repeating you're married??, and he swears at me and hangs up.
I will not be triangulation, nor will I be a flying monkey.