This is from a response below, but I wanted to elevate it because I've dedicated my life to helping people in relationships, and this is such an important topic.

*I don't think divorce is always about the wrong partner. It's also possible we just don't know how to do relationships, and that's really sad. There's SO MUCH pain. And, that pain comes out in ways like the OP is describing. There's a lot of pressure in 'choosing the right one'. There's not as much pressure in figuring out how to have relationships. Truth is almost all relationships start off right. What is different about when it's right and when it goes wrong? Where's that line it crosses over? What happens?

It's funny. The relationship nearly every married person describes as being the one they want is the relationship they had with their spouse in the beginning! We just have to figure out what that is, why it changed, and how to get back to that place. Honestly, I just think we forget. Everything at the beginning is about each other. Partner priority is really high--probably number one. The, we settle in--get the marriage out of the way and turn to the next challenges--kids, jobs, finances, houses, investments, kids, kids,...kids, in-laws--EVERYTHING now becomes BEFORE your partner (or you). We just f'ing forget. Before you know it, you're 10 years down the road and people say they 'fell out of love'. That's not true. You just forgot, and one thing relationships can't endure is irrelevance.

Anyway, I could write a book, so I'll shut up. But, people should think about this for themselves and see if it maybe fits...

You don't "put up" or "walk away" because it's the "easier" way to survive, you stay and work to make it better, because it's family - your family - the one you chose. Unless someone else picked for you (and we are not getting into that) and anything short of violence, you're simply not taking responsibility for the decisions you made. Do not "put up" or "walk away" from violence - no violence deserves even a second chance so "stand up" and "run away".

A Problem I have is that social media lets people believe that it’s OK to give life-changing advice to complete strangers… or To make scathing opinions about complete strangers’ lives. While it’s great to share opinions, exchange ideas, and debate (politely), So many folks don’t seem to understand that in the overall they need to mind their own business and hold their tongue. How awful that these ladies gave such shallow suggestions— as if they were licensed or trained therapists. I grew up in a small town… I can promise you that the world is filled with small people who like to gossip and destroy. Beware bored people with large egos. Sigh.

Probably be better served if you joined a bitter womens' group. Not that you are bitter but that they, at least, would be honest.

When my wife tells me she had a rough day with the kids, I tell her they are both still alive, she did a good job.

How do families work when the husband is away for extended periods of time? Some incredible women out there. You all are doing a great job.

And given that your marriage is now good, do you ask yourself if the complaints that you had back then were reasonable?

I’ve done both; raised children on my own and worked full time. I’m of the firm opinion that for both jobs to be done properly two adults are required.

I think the Mom should leave as she's obviously the problem.

Knee-jerk is ridiculous, isn't it?

My Daughter Married a Narcissistic man he is wonderful with the kids but to her mentally draining emotionally as well it's physicality draining on her. I contacted her and told her there where 2 books in the mail, you have 3 options for yourself 1) be in what you are now 2) work on you to learn how to better deal with him save your marriage etc. 3) leave and chances are good your going to find same or worst. She was upset, but the first Question she asked was what if he gets offended? I said offended now short term, divorce soon long time damage to everyone. She agree to work on learning the skills in the books. It's very important we can not change people only ourselves. Telling anyone to leave some is worng 2 or more side's to everything.

Sounds like the woman's equivalent of a fight club. Very few marriages are ever perfect and all marriages suffer from domination of the one sex over the other. It is a matter of human nature. Our reasons for choosing a life partner are different, as is to be expected. And sometimes we will choose the wrong partner several times before we get it right. Single mom, weekend dad, and all the rest of the possibilities are the price we pay in society for making wrong choices.

Sound like a bunch of bitter morons who keep dating assholes and ignore the nicer guys as "just friends" and before they know it, they are bitter old shrews with short purple hair who blame everyone else and never wake up to the fact that they're terrible themselves with terrible taste in men.