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Anyone ever been accused of "Disrespecting" someone you don't really know? I was.

A coworker I do not really associate with much asked me a rather personal question. I replied with a humorous, if not mildly sarcastic comment. (I was by no means rude!) I was then snapped at with a "Dont talk to me like that!" So I asked "Like what? and was hit with "Dont Disrespect me!"

In response I said "Ok...lets examine that word for a moment. Dis...the latin word meaning to take apart, separate, remove, to take back something bestowed! And Respect...we all know that respect is earned, not given, so...by all means...do tell me exactly what you have done to 'Earn' any respect from me that I am now taking back?"

Needless to say that shut them down. It seems many people mistakenly think common courtesy is somehow "Earned Respect." It isnt. Or that they are "Due" a certain level of respect. They arent. To get respect one must give it. One way to earn mine is by being honest. No matter what. I tell all my friends "I will be the first person to call you on your shit...and I expect nothing less in return!" If you give your word bust your ass to keep it. If your word means nothing to you then why should it mean anything to me? I don't care what job title you have. Even if you are my boss you still have to earn my respect. You may have earned the title but that doesnt mean I automatically give you my respect. I can (a choice) respect the position if I choose...I do NOT have to respect the person in it. Unless they've earned it from me. Having been a boss myself I always endeavored to earn my employees respect. But that doesnt mean discipline went out the window.

I will give common courtesy and treat people fairly. I always like when its reciprocated. That earns my respect. And if I go above and beyond to earn yours and discover its a futile gesture I will not seek it any longer. I can live without it.

What are your thoughts?

MADcHATTER 7 Mar 18
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All the bloody time, primarily when I’m right on the edge of ripping apart a leftists worldview, or some part of it, and they see what I’m doing when it’s too late to save their idea. You can literally watch their faces catch the realization that their deeply-held idea is dead wrong, then turn to desperate personal offence. If they have any measure of booze in them this is a virtual certainty. I’m talking here that 2 hours of conversation can be undone by accusing me of somehow conniving to disrespect them behind their back, while I’m talking to their face. Truly marvellous, the mind of a liberal is.

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I find people are unable to deal with the real world. When your too logical and honest it is "disrespectful" to expect others to be present with you in moments of fully aware conversation. This is abrasive to them as they are offten living in the past, future, or some combination of the two

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Any more I think respect is too often confused with a false sense of entitlement

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