Do you think that homosexual women should identify as lesbians even if they are biromantic or panromantic? Keep in mind that the actual definition of lesbian is a homosexual woman. For example, I am never physically or sexually attracted to men, would never want to actually date a man, but I do think I may be biromantic due to the emotional connections I can have with men due to their personalities. Am I still a lesbian?
Actually y’all I’ve realized that I am homoromantic. My understanding of romantic attraction was wrong and also informed by my past experiences with compulsory heterosexuality and internalized homophobia. But I am still curious about different ways people define ‘lesbian.’
I would say yes, you're a lesbian. Sexuality is something I feel is confined to sexual genitalia. I'm a transman, and I identify as a homosexual because I have attractions to both cis women and other transmen exclusively. And no attraction to cismen or transwomen. Its been an odd thing for me to find myself attracted to transmen as well because I am also attracted to their masculine features, deep voices, facial hair, body shape, etc. But have absolutely no interest in cismen. I suppose it's a hard sexuality to wrap your head around, I'm not even sure it has a name but I find it to be inline with homosexuality if we're basing it purely on sexual anatomy. I've had close male friends who I have loved, but would never consider sexually engaging with.
Your sexuality is physical. Its who you physically desire or who you physically end up with in my opinion
I think sexual preference is innate. Therefore, while you might be able/willing to consider someone of the same (or opposite depending on your innate preference) due to emotional connections, your innate preference is unchanged.
Let me confuse the issue further - I consider myself straight. I prefer men. However, I'm post-op transsexual which means to the average person, preferring men is a gay preference. Neither I nor my partners would agree with that. AND I was in a relationship (18+ years) with a woman while post-op.
I am NOT an animal constrained by my biology to adhere to nature's demand for procreation. I am a reasoning human being capable of ignoring both the biology AND the sociological demands to conform so that I can be both body, mind and soul congruent by MY definition of self.