Regarding your video: "I Lived As A Woman For 10 Years, Then Missed Being A Man"
The part that jumped out to me in this interview was Dustin declaring that when he transitioned he destroyed all memories etc of his past self and then 10 years latter he missed his past and so detransitioned.
The Trans people that I know to be the most successful and happy have never sought to destroy their past. It becomes part of their story. For example in the 70's when I was just a kid I grew up on a farm and one of my many jobs was to raise 100 chickens each year for food. Or in the 80's when I was a skinhead causing all sorts of chaos. The stories remain, the gender changes. I don't run from my memories or seek to destroy my past. I did it as a boy and now when I talk of my past I did that as a girl with only minor changes for things that were gender specific.
Destroying your past does nothing but create a crisis of identity and the trans people I know who follow that route are typically miserable and don't do well.
A new interesting perception: because I watched one or two videos about detransitioning and transition regret, I seem to be getting more of them. (Yay for cookies. Not.) I'd be interested in seeing how Arielle views these and what she thinks of the seeming increase in such regret or the expression of it. Not really my lane.
That was a really interesting video! It's really important to hear from detransitioners.
I have noticed a few detransitioners I have seen on YouTube have themes of 1. trying to escape the past and/or 2. trying to become someone new. I am wondering if that's a common thread that could potentially be used in pre-transition therapy to determine who might be more at risk for detransition in the future.
Though, I also noticed Dustin was very clear about how he did not regret his transition and he felt it was the right decision for his life, even though he detransitioned 10 years later. I think that's an important thing to listen to and remember. What if he knew he would detransition 10 years later? Maybe he would have chosen to transition anyway, because it was the best decision for him at the time. Just something to think about.
Why do you think is the motivation for trans people in these two situations? The trans people I know in my life acknowledge who they were in the past, they request kindness, and understand but not everyone will agree with them. I think most of the trans people who cause anger to conservatives are the ones who destroy their past and demand that everyone else ignores it as well. I think most conservatives like to think of themselves as kind. Is this something the trans community could help us build a bridge with?
I do exactly the same thing: the story remains the same, only the pronouns change. Much easier to tell a real history than to try and hide or make up something.
I noted the same thing in the video as a major red flag for transitioning. He was much more invested in being the girl than in being himself. I'm glad he found his path.
as if a person could "destroy" their own past in the first place - NOT!
Having said that it is worth saying (surmising) that if a person can trick himself that (or the other sex as applicable) "he" is really a "she" trapped in his own male body then it goes without saying that "he" can trick himself into believing that "he" erased his own past.
That's one inescapable fact about human beings. Free will being what it is there is the reality that "saying something" doesn't necessarily "make it so".