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Does anyone know how to get rid of loneliness when you're 36 with no friends, no family and no social skills and very little time and disposable income? Asking for a friend...it's me, I'm the friend.
Hey dude. If you figure it out - let me know
I'm 28 and I moved to another city last year inbetween the work hours and junior pay, making more than surface level colleague friendships was really tough. I had never felt such loneliness. At that point Id gone through a serious breakup so needed people around and to feel like I could forge new connections.
I'm a hobbist/pub musician so normally thats how Id meet new people, but I had no time in the week or money. On a few occassions I went to bars by myself and sat outside trying to pep talk myself into talking to total strangers. Being an introvert It was depressing. That and Brits arent that approachable, especially in london lol
Being in such a big city with so many people just made it worse. Like theres so many people here how do I feel so alone.
Made me realise how difficult making adult friends is. Ofc I still had the odd friend around if I booked them 3+ months in advance ha. I think for me I need to come home to people who will chat and have dinner etc or peopleI know rather than an empty or unsociable shared flat.
In the end COVID tanked the career job and I moved back home in with my family - my longterm friendship groups are still scattered miles away. But I don't feel lonely anymore.
I just rediscovered Meetup because I was looking for a to go shooting with. There are a bunch of categories, at least in my area. Some have gone virtual due to Covid. But many were reasonably priced depending on the activity. $40 or under. Hope that helps.
Set up a small shop and get into wood working metal working, blacksmithing, model/miniature building, table top RPG, 3D printing, repairing/restoring odd items like old electronics and household items, shop/work tools and equipment.
Take some classes in cooking, photography, art, writing.
Archery, black powder shooting, sword fighting, LARPing, history reenacting, and even joining Armored Combat League
Lots of great activities and hobbies to get into that has great opportunities to meet others.