Arielle help, i don't know what to say to my friends to wake them up. I just can't ignore this issue anymore (warning i get very ranty)
Not gonna lie, im guilty of saying "if they let gay people get married, then people will push for pedophilic marriage or relationships"
I didn't say shit like that trying to put down gay people, i said that just as a fact because i know how people like that think, they look for any slither of an opportunity no matter how small to try to justify what they do.
But honestly before people started the protests for lgbt rights, i thought gay marriage already was legal.
Lgbt people shouldn't of had to fight this hard to get the right to marry, they should have passed the law instantly.
It was because lgbt had to fight and pretty much beat the government into submission that i knew this would happen.
Unfortunately a lot of my female friends dated older guys who were between the ages 23-35 when they were 14-16. And to this day they don't see a problem with it.
My last girlfriend (whos now 21) tried to justify sleeping with a 34 year old when she was 16 by saying "he was a good person, he taught me everything i know about sex, and 16 is the legal age so its fine" like.. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!!???
I was a straight male teenager who was 14 and wanted to sleep with hot women in their 20s, i understand the appeal of older guys to young teenage girls because they're too immature to understand.
To immature to stop and think "something is wrong with this guys head, he's attracted to young girls! He's willing to sleep with me because its legal, but he'd clearly sleep with younger girls if he could get away with it"
Also the immaturity is what they take advantage of!! Their young impressionable mind, convincing you its okay and that they care about you, when it's really just because your pussy is tighter, you're weak and impressionable and because they're sick in the fucking head!!
I'm literally shaking in rage and disgust writing this.
And to this day they still don't see a problem with it, and when i get pissed explaining how fucked up those guys are, THEY FUCKING DEFEND THEM!! And tell me that im just a judgemental prick who isn't open minded enough, like, bitch are fucking serious!!???
If I may offer a different approach than 'moral' arguments.
Individual right/liberty. Under 18 is not an adult. They can NOT consent - even the really, REALLY, mature ones. But, the individual right to their pursuit of happiness is inalienable. What happens between two consenting adults is a function of their individual liberty/right. Government (even society) has no business getting in between them.
I don't have to claim a moral position, a religious position, hell, even a medical position. Individual liberty/right defines MY acceptance or opposition to a behavior.
Two 15 yr olds are going to experiment - and to an extent, depending on the genders and what they are going to experiment about - let them. That does NOT mean that a 20yr old can 'experiment' with a 15 yr old. And I really hope those 15 yr olds have responsible parents backing them up. And no, a 15 yr old boy/girl should not be arrested and charged as a rapist (if the 15 yr old girl/boy was a willing participant). Note I said willing participant, not a consenting partner. This example (and the almost infinite variations) needs intelligent, compassionate, adults. It does not need a rigid legal system.
But there is no right, period, that gives an adult sexual access to a child. I don't care what their reasoning is.
Those that want to change the age of maturity can bring it up with God. I'll stand by 18 (knowing that few people are actually fully mature before 28-30).
I once explained why it was fucked up to someone using a quick dirty graph of the progress of mental development by age. Basically, tell them that the reason it's fucked up is because difference in development between a teenager and an adult. This is why 25 and 15 is weird, as well as why 20 and 40 is weird. An adult who dates a kid is either mentally stunted or a serious predator.
This is a new conversation for me to engage in. I don’t like the idea of having this conversation on pedophilia in the lgbtq+ community. I don’t like my initial response to being introduced to this topic however I can confidently say I wouldn’t be in support of mixing pedophilia into our community umbrella.