Well , I’m not sure how this fits the narrative , but my wife’s therapist and her say I’m a Trump humper , after a 25 year relationship she’s divorcing me... I was pretty bummed at first , but I kind of feel like this is what the Holy Spirit has in store for me , so I’m making it as easy I can and trying to wait on the Lord the best I can.

I am a super-extrovert, so I know a great number of people of all beliefs and personality types. I cut off relationship with sociopaths as soon as I realize what they are, but not everyone else. So I have become fond of many people, including some who are weak in character and unable to think all the way through the fallibilities and history of socialism.

So among those are the people who find my support of the Constitution offensive, and most have walked away from me - some with prejudice. I shall miss most of them deeply.

Some I will not miss, as they seem to fail to understand that their own boundaries should be the limit of their judgments of other people - perhaps emotionally traumatized arrested development, so some of them even say things like "All Republicans should be killed." I doubt my chances of reconciliation with them.

I've recently lost a dear friend when I pointed out, in a small group text of three people including me, that the far left had become a cult and they were the real racists. My friend said she wanted to break up our friendship. I wished her well and asked her to consider the possibility that her cult had been lying to her and that was it. I've been too overwhelmed by the political events lately to let the emotions of losing a friend sink in. Political differences was a non-issue for me just a little over a year ago but now I feel I am ready to let go of any friends on the far left. When in the warring mode, we tend to bring out the worst of ourselves--it's the case for me at least . I'm much less friendly, patient and tolerant and more judgmental. Yesterday I listened to a clip of Jordan Peterson's talk from 2017 where he asked people to not aim to win, but aim for peace (in chaotic times). He also said "the way your set the world straight is by constraining the malevolence in your own heart." His remarks are very relevant now and I hope he will come out to speak again soon. And my question for him will be: how do we keep our peace while still winning the culture war lol

Unfortunately, most of my relatives, my on-line friends, and my gal pal, are anti-Trumpers. Most every real life get-together ends in verbal battles.

I'm sure a number of them have stopped reading my social media posts as well. No loss, cuz I don't read most of their posts anymore either, unless they post photos of their kids, travel pics, or cats.

I have noticed that most of them no longer post articles since the most recent riots, and any talk of Black Lives Mattering is pretty much non-existent.

No one we know has come down with Covid, but I know they'd blame Trump if they did. Only a few have lost their jobs during this pandemic. The rest all work from home, so there hasn't been major lifestyle changes, other than the hassle of sheltering in pace.

They can moan and groan all they want to, but most have more money in their pockets since they no longer can go out for drinks, dinner, and compulsive shopping expeditions. My gal pal has saved $500 the last three months cuz she can't get her hair done LOL

Oh lost a job around 2002 in a chamber of commerce by saying the UK would leave the EU in ten years with reasons, they were Europhiles, was told "my face didn't fit". Now they are defunct lol.

If I have, I never noticed. Most people usually find me tolerable even if they disagree, so I think I'm in good shape.

Fortunately, I haven't lost anyone who I consider to be a friend to the culture war. I have acquaintances who I wouldn't associate with and who probably wouldn't want to associate with me, but they're people with whom I don't discuss politics or religion. Those are relationships I would consider to be of minimal value anyway. The relationships I value tend to be with people I consider to be thoughtful and fairly open-minded. If I was still working I might have a different answer. When you're retired, you can more easily control who you spend your time with.

around April 1 I deleted my FB for good. its been lonely but I have to say it was the best decision. I spend much more time with my kids, and the chances of committing something to record that can have my career permanently canceled have dramatically decreased.

In the end some true friends have reached out to me. some whose politics even don't swing my way. we have private thread groups on messenger now. and I call and write my parents and relatives directly now with pictures.

I lost an entire friend group. I have to say "good riddance" because I feel much better now that I'm not arguing with these people any more. But at the same time, I miss the friend group I had before literally every conversation became political and turned to language policing and accusing people of being a fill-in-the-blank-ist or a fill-in-the-blank-phobe.

I am a liberal. My friend group also consisted of liberals. As the group around me turned into an SJW echo chamber, I kept asking critical thinking type questions. Even when I was not actively backing an opposing viewpoint, just questioning parts of the rhetoric was enough to make them gang up against me and start villainizing me.

It doesn't help that I also have a sarcastic and sometimes dark sense of humor. If I dared make even a slightly off-colored joke, it was always a recipe for another highly emotional argument. I found myself walking on eggshells and trying really hard to keep my mouth shut all the time just to try to avoid arguments. It was extremely stressful and I didn't feel like anyone actually liked me any more. Eventually, I was avoiding them for longer and longer periods. Then, one day, I realized I was a lot less stressed when I was not talking to them. So I stopped.

In that group, I was considered way too far right. I was called a Nazi and a fascist (among other things). Here on Slug, I'm still pretty far left compared to the majority of folks I've seen. (And I consider myself a liberal and a democrat.) But nobody's called me any names here. Everyone seems pretty respectful, which I am enjoying.

It always has to be a war, one side wiping out the other. America was very fortunate in its founding fathers who held the country together and guided it through a critical time in history. They had the courage and intelligence to eventually earn the respect of our oppressors and make them our closest ally. Most revolutions don't turn out as well, the French Revolution generated 10 years of chaos before Napoleon took over, the Russian Revolution that ended in a repressive dictatorship and the same with the Chinese Revolution, the Iranian Revolution that established an Islamic state, the Venezuelan disaster.

We all have skin in the game here. Every individual, no matter what political persuasion, can look at themselves and find plenty of things we could be doing better. The way we behave, as if me as an individual, knows better than all other individuals, governments, organizations. It seems that humility is a dirty word today. Humility does not mean bowing and kneeling to others, it just means that we recognize that there is a tremendous amount we do not know and should make an effort to view things from different, reasonable perspectives. We should make the effort to respect others even when we don't agree with them.

In all honesty, if someone deserts you because of a belief or opinion, they’re shallow or suffer cognitive dissonance. I’ve had a couple relatives unfollow me because of politics, religion or climate change. I’m fairly knowledgable on some things. They have eventually gotten over their but hurt and come to see, we can agree to disagree which eventually leads to a deeper discussion on what they were but hurt about. I was offering solutions to the reasons I felt their argument was untenable. I also had them come to understand that through discussion you can solve problems better than just regurgitating an opinion that they were relating to because it sounded good or fit their narrative. And if they go, Okay, you are free to make that choice. I won’t take offence. All good.

My older sister is a Democrat, she's always voted Democrat. She hates Trump and repeats all the CNN, MSNBC, ABC, talking points. Try to point out the facts and she calls it propaganda or fake news...

She lives in Olympia WA. Maybe she is getting a dose or reality after the lock-down and all the riots. Or maybe to her it's all Trumps fault. I don't know because we haven't spoken in a while.

I find that most people I know are not that well informed. I'm not sure what they care about but most are just too busy with their lives to bother with the culture war. When they are exposed to it they react more out of annoyance than something they take serious. The people I enjoy hobbies with adhere to the traditional rule that politics and religion are private matters. Most of my relatives are reluctant Trump supporters so that isn't a problem.

As someone else pointed out being retired probably significantly reduced the stress the culture war induces. Being old so induce some isolation, some of my liberal friends have already passed on and I had lost contact with many before the culture war was seriously in your face. When you are retired you can become pretty absorbed in your own interests and if they are not socially oriented your circle of friends shrink.

The culture war has mainly just reduced my interest in social engagement. The wife and dog satisfy my social instincts adequately. If it wasn't for the internet I probably wouldn't even be aware of it.

I have many friends from all sides of politics.
Those that don't share my political beliefs I don't talk politics with, because it is a waste of my time discussing politics with them when their minds are closed and they live in tribal denial.
Most Green, ALP and Progressives I find are Tribal and as Progressives do not tolerate dissent.

I have lost almost all of my friends. One of my sisters is one of them. There are very few people whom I know currently that can still maintain some level of rational thought, think independently and have a sense of personal accountability. Every day it seems, more people become victims of the victimhood cult and start drinking the proverbial kool-aid as society delves into complete idiocracy. Honestly I'm pretty exhausted from it. I think I might just get a volleyball and go live on a nice deserted island somewhere. I miss the days when there was hope for Humanity.

If words result in the loss of a friend, maybe the friendship wasn't that stable as you thought. However, I see (especially on FakeBook), deliberate triggerings. Friends don't treat friends like that.

No but lost my good job

I would never reject someone due to their politics. But, sadly, it has happened to me. Always stings when it is someone you were close to.

No regrets from me. I have no room for communist sympathizers in my life. I thought "to each their own" for the longest time, but given where things are now, there is little room for nuance: there is a right/wrong side to this conflict, and you either see it or you don't. Leftist "friends" are a huge liability and I suggest distancing yourself from them.

You find the true person when they reveal their political ideology with you.

I lost a good friend after he emailed an anti-Israeli screed to a large group, and I refuted it with facts, replying not just to him, but the whole group. When he died a few years later, before we had a chance to reconnect, our differing views no longer seemed important. Although he was a well informed university professor, he seemed immune to facts that didn’t fit the progressive narrative.

After that experience, I try to engage, rather then refute. It’s just not worth destroying relationships over things none of us can control. Most people will cling to their worldview, even to the death. I love to express my feelings in forums like this, but I have no desire to turn my offline world into a political battleground.

I have no problem telling people where I stand, or recommending right of centre books, or poking fun at woke puritanism, but I refuse to let politics run my real life.

I lost a good friend who I had met online in a fun group a few years ago. He lives in a different state but visited every now and then. There were a few of us who had met online and we'd gather for lunch. I've never discussed politics with him personally but he saw things I've posted on FB. A few weeks ago he messaged me to tell me that my preference for that "Sky after dark filth" was really pissing him off. I said, you're not going to stop being friends because of my politics? He wouldn't respond. The next morning I discovered that I"d been blocked.

The solution is to split up America along cultural-racial-ideological lines.

Heritage America on one side of the line, the Rising Tide of Color on the other.

I haven't lost any true friends, in the purest form of the word but I have lost acquaintances at work because of it. I work in a hospital. The hospital world is heavily feminist, to the point where male staff are afraid to even express an idea for fear of being labeled "the toxic, aggressive male" in the workplace...and we all know where that leads.