I'll give a separate answer here, as it regards my wife's office. Unlike my company, her business, which she owns, is very small. Several of them have been with her well over twenty years.

She's pretty flexible when she can be, for example, she's allowed employees to bring children to work when there was an issue, to take an extended trip for family reasons (wedding in Pakistan), but her business can't readily absorb a lot of "special" things, like extended family leave, long absences due to illness or "middle of the day" emergencies.

With just one employee missing, everything bogs down, everyone works even harder to fill in, but it's pretty tough. She already works for 5:00am to midnight every day. I'm all for being nice, but dang....LOL.

She a physician and more than the business suffers when the staff isn't around. Patients are left waiting, filing and labs get behind and it takes a while to recover.

With regard to Social Media, she had no policy UNLESS what is said reflects poorly on her practice or if the employee is giving unsolicited advice. That crosses the line and (thank goodness, we work in a Fire-at-Will State), will result in termination.

She has an employee handbook, which all new employees must review and sign for.

Your job, any job, is an agreement between parties that can and should be controlled by the market. If your employer suddenly changes policy, then there might be a problem, but otherwise, things like "family leave" and "how long is your lunch" and "social media policy" , while intrusive and burdensome, are the domain of the employer/employee and should be understood when you take the job. If the job sucks, find another.

I'm lucky. My employer is a private company, albeit one worth about $12B. It is owned, for the most part, by one man, the rules are set by him, with input from his advisors (and his executive staff).

We have "PTO" en lieu of vacation and sick time. It's fairly standard for my industry. The PTO keeps employees from "calling in sick" when they're not. We get about 6 weeks at my experience level and we can carry it over.We don't offer paid "family leave" but you can get the time off. For sudden illness (I had child that needed a bone marrow transplant) they can be pretty flexible.

We don't have fix breaks or time off during the day. I bicycle 23 miles each day at lunch for exercise (I also bike to work and back) . I take a long lunch, about 90 minutes. No issues, but I'm expected to be available if they call (I wear a headset while riding). I come in at 8:30, work until 6:30 or 7 each evening, so they're getting full day out of me.

I come in frequently on weekends to work, but don't expect to be paid. I'm compensated well, overall.

We have chaplains at work that visit each employee every couple of weeks. They are non denominational , but I was told public companies would never allow it. I enjoy their visits.

Things I don't like? We fire people at the drop of a hat. I am the only one left out of the six I was hired with five years ago. Yikes.. Some of the firings were a surprise to all. I work with a bit of anxiety about the job. On the positive side, we have a LOT of 20 and 30 year employees here.

Some more details please?